Wonke umntu ufanelwe lulwazi kunye nokhuseleko oluvela ekubeni neqabane elikhethekileyo. Ukuba neqabane eliqhathayo kubuhlungu; ukungazi ukuba bayaqhatha kubi. Abaninzi bazifumana bengamaxhoba omqhathi kuphela emva kokuba imeko ifike kwintloko (edla ngokumangalisayo). Ezi ziganeko zilishwa ziyoyikeka kumntu otshatileyo omnye; inkosikazi yomyeni ikhulelwe, isoka lomfazi liyachasa emtshatweni, yaye umtshato wamashumi eminyaka uye wayinto engeyonto iphambili. Ezi ziganeko zidla ngokusetyenziswa kwincoko ukuthetha “ngeyona meko imbi” kwimeko ethile.
Nangona kunjalo, ezi ziganeko zenzeka namhlanje njengangaphambili. IParanoia, idityaniswe namajelo eendaba ezentlalo, inokukhokelela abaninzi ekubeni “bajonge” kwaye ekugqibeleni bafumane iqabane elikopelayo. Enye yeendlela eziqhelekileyo zokwenza oku kukusebenzisa isixhobo sokujonga ifowuni kwi-intanethi; ezi zixhobo zivumela nabani na ukuba afumane umnini wenombolo encanyathiselwe kumbhalo okrokrisayo okanye umnxeba. Ukuba inani alikrokreli njengoko ubucinga, kusekho ezinye iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo.
1. Ukusetyenziswa ngokugqithisileyo kobugcisa obahlukeneyo
I-avareji yenani lezixhobo ezine-intanethi kwikhaya ngalinye lingaphezulu kweshumi. Kwelo shumi lidityanisiweyo, ubani unokusebenzisa ubuncinane ezisixhenxe kwezo ukufumana okanye ukuthumela imiyalezo. Enye yezona zibonakaliso ezicacileyo ukuba umntu uyakopela kukusebenzisa kwabo okungaqhelekanga kobugcisa obuhlukeneyo; umzekelo, baqalise ukusebenzisa i-iPad yabantwana bakho kakhulu – besithi yeyomsebenzi.
2. Izimo zengqondo ezixubeneyo okanye ezigqithisileyo kunye nawe
Ezinye iziphazamiso zengqondo zineempawu ze-bipolar, ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuqwalasela oko kulo naluphi na uphando lokukopela. Imizekelo yoku inokuquka ukutshintsha kweemvakalelo, ukusuka ekubeninda nokuba kude ukuya ekubeni nothando. Ukutshintsha kweemvakalelo kwenzeka ngenxa yengqwalasela yabo eyahlukileyo phakathi kwezinto eziphambili "ezimbini".
3. Abahlobo babo baqalise ukwenza izinto ezingaqhelekanga
Akukho mntu ufuna ukuthanda abahlobo beqabane lakhe, kodwa kuyanceda xa besenza. Ukuba ngequbuliso abahlobo beqabane lakho benza izinto ezingaqhelekanga ngakuwe, kukho into engalunganga. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba kukho iimeko ezinjengokothusayo ezinokuthi zibe semisebenzini, ngoko ke ukuba uqwalasela oku njengophawu lokukopela okunokwenzeka, linda ixeshana ngaphambi kokuba kubekho ungquzulwano.
4. Azifikeleleki rhoqo
Uninzi lwabantu luya kufuneka lusebenze kade ngaxa lithile kubomi babo bobugcisa. Ngokuxhomekeke kumsebenzi, oku kunokuba rhoqo rhoqo ngobusuku beveki okanye nje kancinci. Eyona nto ixhalabisayo asikokungabikho kwabo – sisimo sabo esingafikelelekiyo. Ukucima ifowuni yabo emsebenzini okanye ngelixa bekunye nabahlobo kudla ngokuba yiflegi ebomvu.
5. Ukuhla konxibelelwano ngokupheleleyo
Izibini ezikhulileyo ezininzi azithethi omnye komnye – kungekhona ngenxa yokuba zingafuni, kodwa ngenxa yokuba kungeyomfuneko. Oku kwahlukile kwiqabane elinganxibelelani neqabane lalo. Amanye amaqabane athanda "ukukhupha umkhenkce" omnye wabo, ngakumbi emva komlo. Ukuhla unxibelelwano ngenxa ukukopela kwenzeka kuba umqhathi ufuna ingqalelo iqabane labo elitsha ngexabiso iimfuno zakho.
6. Baye bacaphuka ngakumbi okanye banoxinzelelo
Zininzi izizathu ezibangela ukuba amanqanaba oxinzelelo lomntu anyuswe; umsebenzi unzima, iimoto zinde, azikho iiyure zaneleyo emini, kwaye akukho mali yaneleyo yokuphila. Nangona kunjalo, iqabane eligxininisekileyo ekukopeleni libonisa uhlobo olukhethekileyo lokuvuselela iimvakalelo xa lugxininisekile; akukho tyala labo.
7. Kukho imiba yemali ngequbuliso okanye engalindelekanga
Wonke umntu uya kujongana nemiba yemali engalindelekanga ebomini bakhe. Izinto ezinjengemingcwabo, iingozi zemoto, iibhondi zentolongo, “neempazamo zebhanki” ngokuqhelekileyo zikhankanywa njengeminye yale miba ivelayo. Nangona kunjalo, imithwalo yemali yequbuliso efana nokuhlawulela imiyalelo yenyanga yesihlobo okanye igrosari ngokuqhubekayo ziiflegi ezibomvu.
8. Ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza okanye okumangalisayo kwinkangeleko
Xa uqwalasela utshintsho kwimbonakalo uphawu lokukopela, kufuneka kubekho ngaphezu "kokuzivakalisa". Ukutshintsha iinwele ngokuqhelekileyo kuyingcebiso. Abaqhathi bafuna ingqwalasela eyongezelelweyo ngokupheleleyo kangangokuba batshintshe amalungu abo abonakalayo nakhumbulekayo. Bakwenza oku ngenxa yokuba kwandisa ingqalelo yabo, umdla, kunye nokuncoma kwaye batsale umkhweli ekujoliswe kuwo.
9 Ngoku banezifihlo xa bebengenazo ngaphambili
Ayinabo bonke ubudlelwane obufanele ukuba bube ziincwadi ezivuleleke ngokubanzi, kodwa kukho umahluko phakathi kokufihla into nokungayizisi into. Ubudlelwane obuhlala bubonwa njengento evulekileyo kunye nokunyaniseka engxakini ukuba umntu omnye ufihla ngokukhawuleza.
10. Bathabathe imisetyenzana yokuzonwabisa emitsha okanye ebiza imali eninzi
Izinto azithandayo zinkulu - zinokwenziwa phantse naphi na kwaye ziquka phantse nantoni na ukuba umntu uzibophelele ngokwaneleyo. Noko ke, maxa wambi umntu oqhathayo usenokutyhola umsebenzi othile wokuzonwabisa ngokungabikho kwawo okanye ixabiso lezinto zokudlala ezintsha. Abanye abaqhathayo banokuthi ukuzonwabisa sisizathu sokhetho olukhulu lwemali, kodwa esona sizathu ngomnye umntu.
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Okokuqala, thatha umoya kwaye ukhumbule ukuba uya kuba yi-100-300 yeepounds lighter emva kokuhlukana nabo. Okwesibini, qokelela bonke ubungqina onokubufumana. Awugcini nje ngokuzama ukuqinisekisa ngakumbi, kodwa kuya kufuneka kwakhona ukuba uphelela kwinkqubo yenkundla. Ukuba kukho naziphi na iiakhawunti ekwabelwana ngazo, qalisa ngokufihlakeleyo ukuhambisa izinto egameni lakho kwaye ujonge uncedo lwezomthetho, ukuba luyafuneka. Cinga ngononophelo into ofuna ukuyenza malunga nobudlelwane kunye nendlela ofuna ukuya kuyo - ukuba kunjalo.